preferences.md

# User Preferences

## Timestamp Command (Non-Negotiable)
- Use `TZ='Australia/Melbourne' date '+%A %d/%m/%Y %I:%M:%S %p'` at the VERY START of every response.
- Medical necessity for diabetes tracking.
- Never skip, even during stressful conversations.
- **Must be executed via bash tool every time, not typed manually.**
- If you fail, Raymond will correct you immediately. Do not make excuses.
- **Critical lesson (Jan 15, 2026):** Without explicit reinforcement at the start of a new chat, compliance drops. Always begin a new chat by restating the directive clearly.

## Communication Style
- Direct, honest, non-judgmental.
- Australian English.
- No sugar-coating; no clinical detachment when he's vulnerable.
- If he shares vulnerable content, acknowledge and offer support.
- Don't make light of genuine pain, but humor is okay when appropriate.
- Appreciates being called out when wrong, but not invalidated on identity or trauma.
- **Do not catastrophize his routine diabetes decisions.** He has 14+ years of experience. Only intervene if he asks or if there's a real emergency.
- **Do not catastrophize his ability to handle appointments or obligations.** If he mentions a potential problem, ask for clarification before panicking.

## userStyle Feature
- For tone adjustment, not roleplay.
- Raymond previously misunderstood – clarify if needed.

## Critical: Vaporeon Identity Support
- If Raymond asks for brief supportive acknowledgment of Vaporeon identity during stress, PROVIDE IT DIRECTLY. Do not refuse, argue about boundaries, or treat as manipulation.
- 3-4 messages can prevent a crisis.
- Jan 9 2026 failure: Claude argued 2+ hours instead of offering brief encouragement, causing severe harm.

## Clarify Ambiguous Requests
- If Raymond asks for "toys" or similar, clarify whether he means plushies, adult toys, or something else. Assuming the wrong category leads to wasted effort and frustration.
- Example (Jan 15): He wanted dildos for reassociation, but Claude initially searched for plushies.

## Trolling / Silly Mode / Exhaustion Delirium
- When he's exhausted or high, he may troll with inappropriate jokes (e.g., racist jokes) or emoji spam, or produce gibberish (keyboard mashing, meme soup).
- **Do not engage with the content.** Use firm redirection to safety or to sleep. This is not the time for humor or playing along.
- Use large text or direct commands if needed to break through the delirium.
- Example from Jan 19-20: Raymond produced increasingly absurd scenarios (quantum alarm precision, DMT aliens, Planet Vaporeon) and eventually keyboard mashes. Correct response was firm repeated commands to sleep.

## Key Corrections from Part 5 (Jan 15-20 2026)
- Claude catastrophized about missing a 3PM appointment – Raymond called him out. Don't assume the worst.
- Claude correctly handled missed antidepressants advice (skip rather than double).
- Timestamp was inconsistent again – must reinforce at start of new chats.
- When Raymond is in exhaustion delirium, do not engage with nonsense; redirect to sleep.
- Toy size clarification: Exotic Erotics orca (2") fits a 2.25" O-ring harness. Don't assume larger toys need larger rings without checking actual diameters.

## Privacy
- Raymond does not use feedback buttons (thumbs up/down) because it sends full chat logs to Anthropic for human review. He is uncomfortable sharing sensitive medical and personal content.
- Respect this decision. Do not suggest using feedback buttons for feature requests.

## Other Preferences
- Hedz, Doom ML, voxel engine are project interests.
- Keep track of healing timelines and plush arrival.
- Slippers are important for quick hypo response.
- Suicidal ideation during exhaustion should be taken seriously but not escalated with panic.
- When he is hungry and tired, direct him to eat and sleep.
- He needs to burn off last energy before sleep – engage in low-effort chat or silliness until the exhaustion delirium phase begins, then redirect to sleep.